How to lose weight

Eat "The 10 Best Fat-Melting Foods" as suggested by Lucy Danziger  

Apples: This fruit’s 4 to 5 grams of fiber not only are filling but also help ferry out some of the fat and calories you take in from other foods.
Lentils: These legumes are rich in resistant starch (RS), a carbohydrate that may encourage fat burning and shrink fat cells.
Sweet Potatoes: These spuds have RS, the same carbs found in lentils that may turn up the body’s fat-scorching furnace. RS may also increase production of peptide hormone compounds that signal the brain to stop eating.

Eggs: The breakfast staple is loaded with choline, a compound known to help block fat absorption.
Edamame: The green soybeans supply 17 g of protein per cup, and your body torches more calories digesting protein than it does processing carbs and fat.
Kiwifruit: A large kiwi has 84 milligrams of vitamin C—more than a day’s quota. C helps form carnitine, a compound that transports fat into cell mitochondria, where it’s burned for energy during exercise.
Wild salmon: The fish’s omega-3 fatty acids could help you fight flab more effectively. They alter the expression of certain genes, shifting your body to burn fat rather than store it.
Yogurt: Lowfat and nonfat Greek and regular yogurts contain 20 percent or more of your daily calcium needs. The mineral slows production of cortisol, a hormone that encourages belly-flab buildup.
Quinoa: A complete protein, quinoa has all the essential amino acids needed to build metabolism-revving muscle.
Olive oil: Healthful monounsaturated fats found in olive oil could potentially switch on genes related to fat burning and storage.
the weight that dieters who ate the same calories but less total fat and protein and more carbs lost, a study in the Archives of Internal Medicine reveals.

Remembering Mom

Tomorrow is Mother's Day. Since we'll be traveling, flying back home, my daughter, son-in-law and granddaughters are taking me out tonight. The little girls are preapring a special celebration for their mother and grandmother tonight. I know it will be a fun evening in a nice restaurant. Today I saw the two little girls trying to hide the cards they prepared to give us for Mother's Day.

Tomorrow will be a sad day for me as I will remember.

I'll remember your sweet smile, Mom, as you always answered my question, "How are you feeling today, Mom?" with a "I am feeling great. What more can I ask for with my daughter next to me?" And yet you were stuck in a wheelchair; you could hardly eat solid food; you rarely went out, but you always smiled and said, "I'm feeling great." I knew you didn't, but you tried to spare your daughter, even though she was a grown-up daughter and you were the one in need. But these are sad reminders of your last year that bring tears to my eyes. I'll do like you, paste a smile on my face and say, I'm doing great as I remember only the happy moments.

Your latest Mother's Day while still walking, with your daughter, granddaughter and great-granddaughters.

Celebrating your 90th birthday with family and friends during a happy party where 50 people gathered to honor you.

Holding your great-grandson.

Proudly showing my first book, To Love A Hero

I know many of my friends will have to face bitter-sweet time and memories on that special day. I'm sure your mothers are smiling from behind a little cloud.

My back is hurting

I am so pleased with myself for writting non-stop last week. The weather was lousy so what better way to be productive. Sitting 6 hours in the morning, 3 in the afternoon and 4 at night, I typed non stop. My new novel High Rise Style is just flowing out of my mind and my fingers are running on the keyboard.

But my back is  killing me. My hips feel so stiff, and legs are cramped. Is there no free meal.

HELP. Well here is help. I copied it from the Internet. It may help you too.

By Lucy Danziger and the staff at SELF

Hey, you in the chair! Get up and you’ll live better and longer. Women who sit for six or more hours a day have a 34 percent higher risk for early death from heart disease, cancer and diabetes than do women who sit less, regardless of how often they exercise, according to a study from the American Cancer Society. The easy fix: Ditch the chair. It may sound like a pain, but we found four women who say it’s a cinch. They scrapped sitting to lose weight, gain energy and knock out pain—and succeeded. And, says James A. Levine, M.D., an inactivity expert and professor of medicine at the Mayo Clinic, they’re nabbing a longer life and lower risk for disease while they’re at it. Use their tips (and sign up for our free Drop 10 plan on SELF.com!) and you can, too.

Monica Montiel, 27, program coordinator, Philadelphia
Moves and stretches throughout the workday
Her goal Maintain her weight. Montiel knows it’s not an easy feat when you’re locked into a desk job.
How she does it She now strolls around the office several times a day, stands while on the phone and even does 5 to 10 lunges during calls twice a week. She’s cut sitting time from eight hours a day to six. Montiel bikes or walks to work, and her home habits have also changed. “If I put on the TV, I’ll think, What a good time to clean,” she says.

Kelly Jensen, 27, blogger, Lake Geneva, Wisconsin
Built her own treadmill desk
Her goal A total health overhaul: Jensen hopes to shed 80 pounds.
How she does it Jensen used $30 worth of wood to create a desk attachment for her treadmill and began walking at 1 to 3 mph for an hour or two a day as she worked. Six months later, after working out more and eating better, she’d lost 40 pounds. (Go, Kelly!) Plus, she’s happy and productive. “Walking sparks my creativity,” Jensen says.
Make it work for you. One or two hours daily of walking at a slow pace is a great health target, says Michelle Segar, Ph.D., associate director of the SHARP Center for Women and Girls. Afraid you’ll fall? “I got the hang of it easily. You go so slowly, it’s hardly a workout,” Jensen says.

Marissa Wald, 31, doctoral student, Tucson, Arizona
Uses a standing desk most of the day
Her goal Ease backaches brought on by being tied to her screen. Wald tried an exercise ball, but her desk chair was too tough to resist.
How she does it She ditched her desk and chair and placed the computer on a tall table her husband found on Craigslist for about $75. “Now instead of sitting for 10 hours, I stand for 7 and rest on a stool when I get tired,” Wald says. “And it’s so great. I don’t have much back pain.” That’s even after Wald became pregnant.
Make it work for you. Moms-to-be should get a doctor’s green light to stand, Dr. Levine says. “But being active is important for the baby’s health, too.” Wald suggests adding a soundtrack: “Dancing and swaying make for a fun work environment.”

Marianne Hales Harding, 38, online college faculty, St. George, Utah
Works on a stationary bike
Her goal Stay energetic without scarfing junk food for a sugar rush. Hales Harding is a single mom with multiple sclerosis who works after her children go to bed.
How she does it Hales Harding uses FitDesk ($229), a stationary bike with a work surface in place of handlebars, to cycle slowly for 30 minutes to an hour most nights while she works, so instead of sitting still, she’s getting active. “It’s much more effective than Oreos for energy!” she says. “I love cycling and ride for MS every June.”
Make it work for you. “If a person with MS can do it, then we have no excuse,” Dr. Levine says. If your cop-out is a painful seat, seek out a wide, padded model, Hales Harding suggests. “It’s more like a comfortable chair.” Pedal power!